Culture Shock is a predictable part of living abroad. But while many people say that overcoming Culture Shock is the goal, we have found that coping is only the beginning if you want to live a full life. It’s not just about living abroad; it’s really about creating your life while you’re living abroad.
In Part 1, we address the 4 phases of Culture Shock and how to successfully navigate it.
Culture Shock Phase 1 – Honeymoon
The name says it all. Just like in a new relationship when everything seems absolutely wonderful and perfect, in the honeymoon phase everything is fascinating: the language, the new food, the way people behave. You are proud about taking this step in your life that others only dream about and there seems to be a romantic light that shines over everything.
Tip: Definitely enjoy the honeymoon! But it’s important to understand that just like in a relationship as it progresses, you will start to notice and experience the flaws. Be aware that this phase will end so that you aren’t shocked when it does.
Culture Shock Phase 2 – Frustration
Where did the honeymoon go? In Phase 2, it’s common to feel exhausted, homesick, or perhaps even depressed. Before, the small irritations didn’t bother you. Now, all those misunderstandings and challenges have built up—so many things are frustrating because they don’t work the same way they do at home. Even simple things like trying to get your sink fixed or buying a bus ticket feel complicated.
What had been „charming“ yesterday is now annoying, frustrating, and irritating. You‘re surrounded by things that you don’t understand and you don’t feel at home. And if you don’t speak the language, you can feel even more frustrated.
Tip: Expect to ask yourself, „Why did I come here? What was I thinking?“ Although you want to try not to compare everything with „the way it is“ back home. Keep in mind that this phase is predicatable and that it will end. Don‘t underestimate the power of patience to help get you through.
Culture Shock Phase 3 – Adjustment
Congratulations! You’ve gotten through the hardest phase! At this point, your daily life isn’t that surprising or unfamiliar.You‘ve figured some of it out and feel more stable.
Now comes the adjustment stage: the new world you’re living in doesn’t feel as unmanageable anymore. Day by day, as you know what to expect, you can feel more comfortable and there are fewer things that overwhelm you. Also, you may have developed a few routines that work well for you.
Tip: Keep working on your routines. Use this time to get to know more people and deepen your relationships. Remember, people like it when you show interest in their culture, so don’t be afraid to ask questions!
Culture Shock Phase 4 – Adaptation and Acceptance
At this stage, you‘ve adapted and feel familiar with your environment.
You‘re still experiencing cultural differences and that’s ok. What’s more important is accepting that you don’t need to understand everything in order to enjoy your life.
Tip: Keep practicing your awareness of differences and similarities in order to deepen your acceptance and adaptation to your new community.
